Dear Destiny Friends,

“True Humility Is Not Thinking Less of Yourself, It’s Thinking of Yourself Less” – C. S. Lewis 

One of the greatest qualities any progressive mind must have is humility. Some people think humility is old-fashioned, that when someone talks about being humble, they’re just looking for a new way to brag about themselves. In some cases, humility is seen as a weakness, but, in reality, it is one of the greatest strengths a person can possess. It is a quality that allows us to be open to new ideas and perspectives; to be more forgiving and understanding of others, and to be more compassionate and empathetic.

Personally, nothing endears me so much to anyone than humility. I have attracted so much goodwill by the application of this revered quality. I have seen great people who I doubt if I can measure up to their life accomplishment, yet they are extremely humble. 

As a matter of fact, I have a mentor who is a sophisticated wealthy man by any measure one can imagine. This man used to be a bus conductor during his teenage years, but luck found him, and he was able to get a decent education. Today, he is one of the most revered Africans who relates with world leaders, especially with presidents of countries.

During one of our physical meetings, he told me he never forgets his humble beginnings because he knows it’s only God that has brought him that far in life. That’s humility! It is, however, sad to know some people tend to forget their humble beginnings when their status begins to change. They are ingrates. They fail to understand that the higher you go in life, the more humble you should become.

Humility is not weakness, it is strength. The word humility is underrated in our society. However, great people who think out of the box have discovered the hidden power of humility and have used it to disarm people in addition to attracting opportunities.

Let’s face it, nobody likes a proud mind, but a handsome, intelligent, wealthy, and very valuable, and yet humble person, will be highly celebrated and revered.

Clive Lewis was right when he stated, humility is not weakness, rather it is thinking of oneself less. When you know who you are, you will resist the temptation of announcing yourself. This literally means, a rational being ought to continually see himself or herself as someone who doesn’t know it all, and as such opening oneself to growth opportunities of learning.

Let’s take a moment to share more insights on what humility means. True humility breeds confidence, the kind that doesn’t need to boast accomplishments. True humility allows a leader to listen to others, gather different points of view, and admit they may not have all the answers.

Servant Leadership

There’s no doubt that humility is one of a leader’s most powerful tools. It unlocks the potential of those around them, strengthens relationships, and allows people to trust and respect you.

Great and exceptional leaders are humble people. It takes humility to lead. The hallmark of a leader is applying humility. Servant leadership is a style of leadership that focuses on putting the needs of others before your own. This type of leadership is based on the idea that if you can help your team members succeed, they will, in turn, help you succeed. Leaders, who practice servant-Leadership are often more successful because they have a motivated team to help them achieve their goals.

Humility also allows us to build better relationships with others. When you are humble, you are less likely to be defensive or to take criticism personally. It takes humility to learn from others because it makes one more approachable and easier to work with, which can lead to better collaboration and teamwork.

Humility can lead to greater self-awareness. When you are humble, you are more likely to reflect on your own behavior, and take responsibility for your actions.

According to a research, people are more likely to succeed when they display humility because humility will make them to be modest, vulnerable, and have empathy for others in addition to having an open mind.

In any sphere of life whether family, work-related, school, personal or professional, humility if properly used can be a game changer.

Humility helps you to admit mistakes. A humble rational mind is open to feedback.  It takes humility to accept constructive criticisms.

Shows gratitude: 

A humble person takes time to show gratitude to their team members, recognizing their hard work and contributions. They express their appreciation in a sincere and meaningful way, which helps to build a positive and motivated team culture.

Active listening: 

A humble leader is a good listener who gives their full attention to team members when they speak. Listening is one of the essential skills that a leader can possess. They seek to understand their perspective, validate their feelings, and respond in a way that shows they have been heard. A humble mind is someone who leads with empathy, puts the needs of their team first, and fosters a culture of trust, collaboration, and growth.

Seek Help

Humble people are not afraid to seek help. They are more likely to succeed because they aren’t afraid to ask for help. Humble leaders know that they don’t have everything figured out and that they can benefit from the expertise of others.

Humility makes you understand your strengths and weaknesses

Humble leaders are good at knowing their strengths and weaknesses. They don’t try to be something they’re not. Authenticity and honesty are key components to being an effective leader. Humble leaders know that they aren’t perfect, and that there are many things that they cannot do on their own. They also understand that they can learn from others and draw from their knowledge and experience to help them become better leaders.

In conclusion, the power of humility should not be underestimated. Whether in our personal or professional lives, being humble can lead to greater success, better relationships, self-awareness, and happiness. So, let’s embrace this quality and be proud in humility.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator.  He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate and creative writer Design Your Destiny and Unleash Your Destiny.  He can be reached via

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Henry Ukazu is a graduate of New York Law School. He is Founder and President at Global Empowerment & Mentoring Initiative. A trained life coach, prolific writer, and passionate youth advocate, he is also a highly sought-after public speaker. He is author of the acclaimed book, “Design Your Destiny- Actualizing Your Birthright to Success.

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